Coaching Demystified – What does it take to be a good coach?
Of all my posts on coaching, this is probably the most critical. With many people aspiring to become coaches and many training companies offering coaching programs, this is a critical question to address.
Will attending a coaching training make you a good coach? No. Can everyone who aspires to be a coach become one? No.
What then is the key requirement? What does it take to be a good coach? I can sum it up in two words: Life experience.
Attending a certification program and acquiring a certificate do NOT necessarily make you an effective coach.
In my opinion, the primary characteristics an individual needs to possess (which outrank any skill, by the way) are:
- Ego strength
- Self assurance
- Comfort with being vulnerable
The skills required are:
Effective listening – listening to the unsaid, picking up nuances and listening beyond what is portrayed are key.
Advanced Questioning skills – Probing deeply, asking questions that will inspire and provoke, also questions that will lead to greater clarity.
Ability to challenge, be tough and push-back – coaches don’t just question or listen, they also challenge, provoke and push-back. Coaches need to be soft and supporting but also tough and demanding. If you feel you can’t play the range, you should reconsider your desire to become a coach. This also demands the coach to be extremely sensitive to what is required in THAT moment.
Maintaining silence – too many coaches think they need to be be active to be doing something in order to have an impact. Maintaining silence is a powerful tool and once the silence passes beyond discomfort it generally results in the coachee opening up with something that is deep and powerful.
According to @oMissJallmond One of the most imp things in coach training is learning to ask the right questions, listen,develop rapport.
In coaching the question can be more life altering says @tanvi_gautam
@nohrgyan Puts it very well when she says A good coach is in touch with own emotions & intuition. Knowing when to ask a q, when to confront and when to hold silence
Hopefully, you’ve read the previous 3 posts on this series of blogs on coaching. If you haven’t, here they are:
The final blogpost in the series will talk about :
5. What are the various types of coaching? And how are they different?
Hope you are enjoying the series!
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