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Love Thyself

August 18, 2010
In search of - bliss
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Make your own choices, do what you want without worrying about what others will think.

If you worry about others, you’ll live a life governed by others. And one day, you’ll wake up unhappy, wondering what happened to your life.

It’s probably the hardest thing for you to do. But you must. For your own sake. Because you owe it to your life.

You have probably ended up reading this, because you needed to hear this. Today. Now.

What’s that one decision you’re thinking about? You want to make one choice, your heart desires it but, you’re worried what people will think and say, you’re worried you’ll upset people who’re close to you. You are torn.

I’ll make it easy for you. Make the easier choice. Live with it for a month. And if every day, you wake up feeling happy and at peace, stick with that choice.

If everyday, you wake up feeling uneasy, unhappy, not at peace, hungering for the other choice. Then change your mind. Change your decision. Choose the other, harder option. And in spite of difficulties and challenges, I promise, your heart will be at peace.

Try it. Live free! No other way. Sometimes we make cages for ourselves, and those cages are the hardest to escape from.

Live Free Or Die
Image by jcbwalsh via Flickr

If you’re reading this. And you have tried it. And found peace. Share the story. Leave a comment as a note, so that others who come here, to this page. May find hope and strength for themselves that it works.

Thanks in advance!

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17 Comments leave one →
  1. May 30, 2011 3:12 pm

    So happy to have discovered you. A blog that speaks to my soul. I feel at home. Thank you.
    Your first sentence has power and is worthy of repetition: “Make your own choices, do what you want without worrying about what others will think.” I will strive to do just that today, following choice with directed action.

  2. September 21, 2010 6:08 am

    Gurprrietsiingh – thanks for the uplifting post. I’m the photographer of the ‘Live Free or Die’ image and it’s great to see it associated with something positive.

    • gurprrietsiingh permalink*
      September 21, 2010 1:30 pm

      Such a pleasure to hear from you! I was searching for an appropriate image, and the moment I saw this one, I knew it fit.
      It’s a philosophy I believe in, as did the founding fathers of many nations, and they were willing to die for the right to freedom. That is a tremendous source of motivation for me!
      Glad we connected, I love the starkness of the words written in stone. They make the message stand out.
      Thanks once again!

  3. August 22, 2010 10:51 pm

    Feeling so delighted on reading this post, I wouldn’t have felt the same before, had I read it a few months back. One choice/decision of waking up happily every morning, inspiration and mentoring that I got from you Gurprriet and the steps that I took following that, have brought me closer to what I want to do, something that makes me happier. Thanks for such wonderful posts. Manpreet

    • gurprrietsiingh permalink*
      August 26, 2010 3:28 pm

      Mentoring, inspiration, are all just guidelines. It is like someone handing you a map. It is your personal courage, born of a conviction and desire, that leads you to walk the path of happiness, which is not an easy path, but it is filled with self satisfaction! Glad you made the choice!

  4. Rishi Raj Gupta permalink
    August 19, 2010 11:44 pm

    Life is a test, not a lesson. If it were a lesson, someone would have taught us how to lead it, how to crack the test. Alas, it never so happens! We face a test every day, and battle with it.
    I do not know any other way, never known it. Hence, I live with tougher choices every day – and they pay, rather pay handsomely in the end.
    This is indeed a good note, that you wrote. Thanks for sharing.

    • gurprrietsiingh permalink*
      August 26, 2010 3:27 pm

      You’re a warrior Rishi. Joojhne ke liye always ready! Apni battles alag, you even fight battles for others! One day you will learn why, and that day will be a breakthrough!

  5. August 18, 2010 11:48 pm

    I totally agree with this. When you live your life governed by others, ….. living our life as per what society thinks is right…we don’t understand we are subconsciously living for them…the breakthrough happens when you realize that you are not leading the life the way you want but what others want….do things which people think is right or fit in their stereotype….

    Live for yourself….set your own standards based on right value system…world will soon follow you….

    Love yourself…accept yourself….approve of yourself…. Make decisions about what u r passionate about and not what would be accepted by others….u will face resistance but if we know we are right ….everything will fall in place….

    • gurprrietsiingh permalink*
      August 19, 2010 10:31 am


      I know you have fought these battles inside yourself and when you speak, you’re speaking from experience and having been there and done that! Kudos to you!

  6. Swati permalink
    August 18, 2010 11:46 pm

    Hi Joy,

    Your post triggered some thoughts….Here are those-

    Being happy is a state of mind that comes with choice. At times it may not be an easy choice, it might involve lot of efforts to take your innerself out of that comfort zone where it has got used to living with the pain. But the reality remains unchanged, it is still a choice one has to make at some point of time.

    I would just say make the choice which will help you live a regret free life. Even if the basis of your choice is not wanting to hurt anyone or happiness of people who matter or to slp easy….whatever, the end result should be your self satisfaction and happiness.

    If it is not true, then purely its a waste of life. Either be comfortable with the idea of finding happiness in the happiness of others or just go ahead with whatever makes you happy.

    I know its is easier said than done. This comment is actually my way of telling myself that i need to think like this and apply it in my life…

    Will keep you updated as and when i am able to apply it.

    Keep writing!

    • gurprrietsiingh permalink*
      August 19, 2010 10:34 am


      Strategic thoughts are interesting discussions however, it is Strategic ACTIONS that generate change and result.

      :o) You know what I mean!

  7. Gurinder Brar permalink
    August 18, 2010 8:27 pm

    Hi Gurrpriet,

    I agree with you. I belive that life is about making choices.

    By not making a choice….we have still made a choice !!!



  8. harpreet singh bajwa permalink
    August 18, 2010 4:44 pm

    Joy, this is good one but it seems practically difficult to make choice without thinking of others . Concept is good , must try it on smaller decisions first to make a habbit before switching to bigger calls.
    hps bajwa

    • gurprrietsiingh permalink*
      August 18, 2010 4:54 pm

      It’s difficult, not impossible. And it’s difficult because of our conditioning via guilt, perceived models of respecting age/seniority/relationships.

      It’s not a concept, it is a way of life. If people say, meri khushi tumhari khushi mein hai, then why do they have a problem when you make a decision jisme tumhari khushi hai?

      Glad you left this note, I wrote this blogpost to trigger exactly such conversations with self!


  9. Aparna Joshi permalink
    August 18, 2010 3:30 pm

    Hi Joy:

    It’s wonderful to read your articles. I couldn’t resist leaving a response for this one.

    The title is so apt – Love Thyself.

    Conceptually people feel that loving yourself is being selfish. While on the contrary, it’s not. Only when you love yourself with all your positives and negatives can one begin to accept these elements in others. That’s when we can love others and wake up feeling happy that you could make a difference in someone’s life.

    Love the line – Because you owe it to your life.

    Happy writing!

    Cheers! AJ

    • gurprrietsiingh permalink*
      August 18, 2010 3:36 pm


      So good to hear from you.

      You’re so right, it is only when we can love ourselves completely, with all our rights and wrongs, that we can loves others the same way and accept them for what they are. I have experienced this change in myself, and I know how powerful it is.

      Hope you are well!


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