Choices – Own up!
I have heard it said often, when I look back on my life, I have no regrets. I know what they mean when they say that.
I have made some interesting choices in my life. And as a result, have had an interesting life so far. No regrets. Pleasure, pain, joy, sadness, wins and losses…all part of this game of choices!
And yet as I coach people. Run workshops, where we discuss breakthroughs and powerful living, I can’t help but notice the large number of people who, for want of a better word, keep blaming.
I’m stuck in this profession because my dad forced me to take up this line of work.
He said this color looked good on me.
Uncle Charlie said this was a good stock pick, so I bought it.
I could go on, but you know what I mean. We are surrounded by people like this, and as I work with them, there are times I reach a point of frustration and just want to scream and tell them to take ownership.
The beginning is to take ownership of the fact that the choices you make are the choices YOU MAKE. There is advice all around you. If you seek advice on any subject, you will get advice for and against! But the final choice of which one you will opt for is made by you and you alone. NOT Uncle Charlie!
But I have also realized that there is comfort in being this way. People “externalize” responsibility because it absolves them from the failure of a particular choice. Then it’s uncle Charlie who was wrong, not I.
Sadly, there is no growth, no breakthrough in such living.
And don’t you think this is just personal, it has as much importance to business, if not more.
Company A doesn’t have a better strategy than Company B. Companies don’t have a strategy, it is the people who work for that company who do! If your competitor outdid you, it’s because your counterpart who works for the competitor made different choices!
If a business had great sales during a period, it is because someone made the right choices.
Your life is the sum total of the choices you make.
From the moment you begin to own the choices you make, you will find that you’re happier, more focussed, and regret-free. Because, if nothing else, we do understand one thing about choices, that each choice has a takeaway, a gain and a loss. And when we make a choice, we’re betting on the gain being more than the loss.
Eating healthy is a choice. Giving up smoking is a choice. So is exercise. Living with the one you love is a choice. Living in sin is, and so is living in pain.
You can always choose to walk away from anything in your life.
You can always choose to go back to something you left behind.
Whether or not you think you’re choosing, know this – you are.
You choose to say yes. You choose to say no. You choose to NOT say no. You choose to stay or leave and you choose to choose later!
Choose wisely. Choose consciously. Live mindfully.
Your life will be the sum total of the choices you make.
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